Fear may be one of the most difficult emotions you experience, but with time it can be overcome. For the widowed, it may be the fear of being alone. Fear that you’ll never love again. Fear that no one will ever love you. Fear that you’ll be rejected.
If you’ve experienced a miscarriage, you might feel you’ll never have children in your life. If you’ve lost your only child, you wonder who will care for you as you age. If you’ve lost a parent, you may wonder how you’ll move forward without their support, encouragement and the security their presence brought to your life.
I’m sure you would agree that everyone deals with fear. Those who conquer it and move past it succeed to greater levels than those who allow it to control them. This can be easier said than done, when grief is involved, because sometimes fear can seem totally overwhelming. But, at these times, because of our sensitivity, we conjure up so many possibilities of failure and fear in our minds that we sometimes make it worse than it really is.
Remember, fear is “False Evidence Appearing Real.” When you are overwhelmed, write down all the things that you are fearful about. Break them down into small parts. If they are activities or things you must do, make them small “bite-sized” pieces - small activities which will not seem so overwhelming.
By doing this, you will feel a sense of accomplishment, that sense of success you are building toward so the full project will be completed. Don’t be afraid. You are moving out of your comfort zone so, of course, you feel fear.
For encouragement, think back to times in your past when you went out of your comfort zone. You were a little afraid but you still did it anyway. And when you think of those instances, remember how you felt, remember that you indeed took the action and completed the task. You did it anyway. You faced fear in the eye and still moved ahead. And if you’re like me, after it was all over, you secretly wondered why you got in such a tizzy over it. It actually wasn’t as bad as you had conjured up in your mind.
You did it then and you still can do it now. So...GO FOR IT - DO IT IN SPITE OF YOUR FEAR!
