If you’re visiting today, you or someone you love is hurting deeply after the death of a loved one.  You’re looking for comfort and education and information and something to relieve some of your confusion and pain.

I understand.  That is exactly why I’ve developed this site with articles, my personal blog, forums, products, conference information, and other features to help you.  You’ll also gain access to my weekly column, where I answer your specific and sometimes intimate questions on grief and the grieving process.

So, please accept my condolences on the death of your loved one.  This is a very difficult time for you - a time when you need to be patient and kind with yourself.  If this is your first deathloss, you may not really understand what you’re feeling and that’s okay.  Most people don’t the first time around.  

I’m giving you permission to grieve here.  Permission to just feel what you’re feeling, think what you’re thinking, act out without hurting others, and simply ‘live’ whatever comes up for you, even though you might feel like dying, too.  Everyone’s journey is different.  We simply don’t know how we will react until grief happens in our life. 

There is no set path, no magic pill, no three-step plan, no ten-point article which makes it all better instantaneously.  It sure would be nice if there were such a thing.  But there isn’t.  

That’s what makes grief so exasperating.  You can't get control over it and for most of us, that’s a pretty scary thing.  We are accustomed to taking charge over our lives.  And here we are, on a road which could really lead anywhere.  And just the thought of that is extremely frightening.

But I want you to know that the more time and attention you take now to learn all you can about the grieving process and how others have walked this path before you, the more sense of ‘control’ you will feel.  Confusion comes from fear and ignorance.  By being here with us, you will never feel ignorant again.  You will feel educated and empowered.  

And I feel it my privilege to hold your hand along this path.  I can’t promise it won’t often feel like an awfully rocky road, but I’ll give you help and some tips which you can use in your own life’s journey.

Start by joining a forum to visit with others who know exactly what you're going through, read some articles and visit my blog.  I've made the pages short because I know your attention span now is somewhat limited.  Later you can come back to read more. 

We welcome you and send you hugs.  We are here to help you!

Respectfully...